At the moment this blog is very much guided by events in the adoption pathway. It's not written entirely freely yet as like other adopters I've got so used to being on best behaviour and being aware of how all actions may be interpreted. Don't get me wrong, it's not a false representation on me but it is me in social worker big brother mode!
I'm now reading regular threads and participating on forums like adoption uk, the mumsnet adoption forum and adoption support uk.
They have oodles of info and support. They also have loads of strong opinions.
I think people haunt them at the stages where there is little info on the process, like linking, matching, intros. I then think people come back on when they have problems with their children.
This gives quite a scary, negative slant. I suspect that most mums and dads are busy living their lives post placement to write regular updates.
The other non adoption blog that I'm loving is the unmumsy one. It reflects the honest viewpoints of several of my friends and family and I suspect it will make me feel a lot better at my review of how I'm parenting than anything else.
There's a lot on the forums of throw away all parenting guides type of advice. I think I'll address all advice as I would with any form of motherhood. I'll read it, if it might apply, I'll try it, if not I'll reject it. Yes my child will have aspects that need addressing that other friends birth children won't have but they may have other trauma to address in later years like divorce etc..
I can still get a lot of advice from them on some of the practical aspects. What to feed, best nappies, places to visit etc..
I'm feeling like the days are so slow. Matching panel is 16 days away. Every day I'm doing something to try and make days go faster. I don't feel overly stressed just excited. My dreams are surreal though!
Little ones foster carer has been amazing me, texting me about how he's enjoyed days out and sending me pics. I think she's going to be amazing at making intros move smoothly.
Today's keep busy is family catch up and meal! Next time I do it there should be a little man with us! X
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